“Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse?”(Nelson).
In my opinion, I believe that the key to classroom management is to get to know the students really well and try to understand their perspective and their point of view of looking at things that is a first and secondly to try to decode the students hidden messages that mainly not said but reflected on their actions, which sometimes is really obvious but we just get caught in trying to ignore those actions or interpret them based on how we see things only ignoring theirs.
In my classroom, I tend to break the ice with my students in making a friendly relationship with them but maintaining a kind and firm attitude at the same time which is not always easily balanced. I so believe that young children are all kindhearted they have innate in their hearts that might change when they get older and older maybe, but it’s all innate so, a good teacher knows how to get the best out of her students which of course not an easy task.
Also, In my classroom the students tends to reflect on their actions and that by practicing the “Action Cycle” which is “Choose” make a choice concerning a situation and then “Act” to carry through with these choices and finally “Reflect” and that to think about the consequences of their actions and that help them when choosing the next time but it needs a lot of consistency to maintain a steady progress with them.
I taught my students “Brain in the Palm of the hand” and how when the feelings get control especially the angry feeling it affects the way we think and make decisions, so it was really good way and logical to explain how the brain works with emotions. And they started reminding their friends when someone gets angry that his brain now is not functioning well and the emotions are taking control.
There is more than one strategy that I am willing to try in my classroom, like when dealing with something that a child cannot have, most of the time they get really angry and frustrated and it could end up really badly as sometimes they hit and saying bad words, but reaching the understanding of letting go and accepting to an extent “will help them increase their tolerance and self-control.”(Eckman) but still consistency is the golden key.
Another strategy that I will use is reflecting on what is a good choice and a bad choice, and how they can evaluate the choice and based on what evidence. I think that most of the children know the difference between what is right and wrong, it’s just a matter of self-control.
In my classroom, most of the problems unfortunately is dealing with each other in the way they talk and play. So, their social skills I guess is pretty low. I started working on that but step at a time from first expressing their feelings to their friends in a nice way using the “I message” and the power of a good word and hopefully it will be fruitful.
The strategies and skills used for developing a classroom that is cooperative and that maintains mutual respect and takes responsibility for their actions are enormous but the important thing is to know which strategy suits with which action and again consistency.