The other point of view

“Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse?”(Nelson).

In my opinion, I believe that the key to classroom management is to get to know the students really well and try to understand their perspective and their point of view of looking at things that is a first and secondly to try to decode the students hidden messages that mainly not said but reflected on their actions, which sometimes is really obvious but we just get caught in trying to ignore those actions or interpret them based on how we see things only ignoring theirs.

In my classroom, I tend to break the ice with my students in making a friendly relationship with them but maintaining a kind and firm attitude at the same time which is not always easily balanced. I so believe that young children are all kindhearted they have innate in their hearts that might change when they get older and older maybe, but it’s all innate so, a good teacher knows how to get the best out of her students which of course not an easy task.

Also, In my classroom the students tends to reflect on their actions and that by practicing the “Action Cycle” which is “Choose” make a choice concerning a situation and then “Act” to carry through with these choices and finally “Reflect” and that to think about the consequences of their actions and that help them when choosing the next time but it needs a lot of consistency to maintain a steady progress with them.

I taught my students “Brain in the Palm of the hand” and how when the feelings get control especially the angry feeling it affects the way we think and make decisions, so it was really good way and logical to explain how the brain works with emotions. And they started reminding their friends when someone gets angry that his brain now is not functioning well and the emotions are taking control.

There is more than one strategy that I am willing to try in my classroom, like when dealing with something that a child cannot have, most of the time they get really angry and frustrated and it could end up really badly as sometimes they hit and saying bad words, but reaching the understanding of letting go and accepting to an extent “will help them increase their tolerance and self-control.”(Eckman) but still consistency is the golden key.

Another strategy that I will use is reflecting on what is a good choice and a bad choice, and how they can evaluate the choice and based on what evidence. I think that most of the children know the difference between what is right and wrong, it’s just a matter of self-control.

In my classroom, most of the problems unfortunately is dealing with each other in the way they talk and play. So, their social skills I guess is pretty low. I started working on that but step at a time from first expressing their feelings to their friends in a nice way using the “I message” and the power of a good word and hopefully it will be fruitful.

The strategies and skills used for developing a classroom that is cooperative and that maintains mutual respect and takes responsibility for their actions are enormous but the important thing is to know which strategy suits with which action and again consistency.

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In their shoes

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“What would it be like to be a student in your classroom? Walking in the learner’s shoes.

A Captivating article written by Kath Murdoch. that took me to different places while reading it.

The article is asking whether are your relating to your students or not? Are you showing empathy and understanding towards them? How you expect them to feel safe in the classroom without being understood?

As Kath Murdoch said and I quote “Empathy builds relationships and relationships are the key to quality teaching.”

First, what is empathy? It is simply imagining oneself in another’s situation in order to understand another person’s emotions. And if you showed empathy that means that you felt their emotions and then you tend to understand, when you understand you relate, when you relate you reflect and then you take an action. I used to have a student in my class that is always bullying his classmates even his friends he was disturbing everyone including me at first I didn’t understand him as he refuses to talk one at time he begins to respond to me I started by asking how u feel today ? if he hit someone I decided not to blame him but to say I know that probably that someone did something in order that you would hit him , he talked and explains and then at the end he was convinced that that someone didn’t mean to bother him at the beginning and he shouldn’t have hit him in the first place and he went and apologized. It wasn’t easy and it wasn’t always the same good result but, it is always worth it.

       Second , In a supported learning environment. Children and teachers share control, I believe that their    emotions  mostly guides the teacher to how it could relate to them and it’s both the teacher’s and the student’s job to help each other reflect  ,That is why I believe that empathy roots is innate but maybe they won’t show it unless they see it around them .I believe that students are mostly the mirror of their teacher if they noticed that she is tensed and nervous and always shouting they probably will be the same , so it’s the same how we respond, how we feel , how we act is simply the key to them, you want to make them show empathy , you should show it first .After the session was over  sometimes i get angry at them and I always regret it  and I feel really guilty about it  and put myself in their place maybe they were tired or bored or don’t understand  that is why they acted that way . so,I go back and admit that i was mistaken and that i shouldn’t have been mad at them  and I apologize to them and they always listen to me with an open heart and even sometimes they say that i didn’t do anything to apologize for !

 

Third , İn one of the  PYP attitudes (that means what do we want students to feel , value and demonstrate) is Empathy ,also one of the Learner’s profile is caring that is focusing on Empathy . that means it should be focused on . students were learning about  expressing themselves through stories and caring as a learner profile so they were taking “Pandarella”  they saw in the story how could you be uncaring like the step mom and example of being caring like the god mother, and putting themselves in Pandarella’s shoe what would they like ? so, as an activity they were asked to draw and write  how will they care for Pandarella if they took her home? And their answers were we will  eat with her , play with her , share with her , go to the garden with her.517hgwi0vdl-_sy344_bo1204203200_

 

Empathy should be in our daily interaction with students ,  we will understand them more and they would feel safe. Showing empathy to your students is like paying it forward. So, if it keeps on going it will affects the future of education that by it’s turn will affect everything else.